Survivor Leadership Forum Guidelines

Membership

This forum is for anyone who identifies as a survivor of the commercial sex industry or sex trafficking. You must have a valid email address (see below) and must register with GEMS Survivor Leadership Institute (SLI) staff. You will be asked to share your full name and email address with SLI staff only. This is so that we may contact you if any issues arise. We will not share your full name or personal email address with anyone else.

Survivors 13 years and under:

We are concerned about the safety and privacy of children who use the Internet. Consistent with the Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act of 1998, we will never knowingly request Personally Identifiable Information from anyone under the age of 13 without prior verifiable parental consent. If we become aware that a child under 13 has provided us with Personally Identifiable Information through the forum without verifiable parental consent, we will use our best efforts to remove such information from our files. If a parent or guardian becomes aware that his or her child has provided us with Personally Identifiable Information through the forum without verifiable parental consent, he or she should contact GEMS Survivor Leadership Institute at (212) 926 -8089 or sliinfo@gems-girls.org.

Use an Anonymous Email

Use a free, anonymous email address, from a service like Gmail, Yahoo, or HotMail, if you want to register to participate in our forums. This is to protect your identity. For example, if your name is Jane Doe, do not use an email that is janedoe123@gmail.com.

Do Not Reveal Your Identity

We recommend that you not reveal personally identifiable information like your real name, address, city, telephone number or place of work to anyone in our discussion community. Use an alias or handle instead.

Use Caution About the Veracity of Others

We can’t stop participants from revealing personal information, although this is your best assurance of security. We can’t verify the identity of other users, or validate their statements. Remember that each person is speaking from his or her own experience. It is your job to assess each person’s statements and come to your own perspective on it. What is true for someone else may not be true for you.

Speak For Yourself

Impersonation of others is not allowed.

Learn Good Participation Skills

We keep this discussion space safe by treating other participants appropriately. Be gentle with each other. Absolutely no comments that are derogatory towards someone’s race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, ability, education, income, citizenship status or any other identity is allowed. Realize that every person who comes here has been hurt and has overcome many challenges. Be sensitive. Be cautious about flames or expressions of rage at fellow participants. Use ‘I’ statements. Speak from your own experience. Speak from your heart. This is the most powerful and influential way to make your point.

Please do not participate while you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

Make Appropriate Posts

Each forum has its own unique purpose and topics for discussion. Please stay on topic and do not derail the conversation. The forum is for conversation and dialogue about shared experiences and to give and receive support. Please do not use the forum like you would use a Facebook group. This is not the space to promote events, post pictures, or to fundraise. Please keep in mind that this forum includes young people who may be under 18. If you have questions about whether or not your content is appropriate, please email sliinfo@gems-girls.org.

Administrators and moderators have the right to pre-approve or remove any posts. This includes abusive posts, or other disruptive items. Since we can’t guarantee the appropriateness of content on other websites, please use your best judgment in deciding if the resources that other people share are the best for you. As stated in the Terms of Service, GEMS is not liable for the information posted on other organizations’ websites. If you know of a problematic posting, contact the moderator or administrator.

Suicidal Feelings

We take suicidal thoughts and feelings very seriously. This is the place to discuss your feelings, no matter how dark or despairing. Share what you need to share, and get help when you need help. If you are in immediate danger, please seek help by calling 911 or a hotline immediately [1-800-273-8255]. If you are concerned about another member, please refer them to resources listed in the “Additional Support Resources” section of the Forum.

If at any point the moderators notice patterns of suicidal thoughts and behaviors, we will reach out to you directly via the email you have provided us.

Disagreements and Conflicts

If you have a disagreement or conflict with another member, please do not use the forum to discuss the issue. Please email sliinfo@gems-girls.org and we will respond within 48 hours to determine the best conflict resolution strategy. The SLI Team will use our discretion to determine whether not our intervention is necessary and/or appropriate. We may ask you and the other party to resolve the issue offline.

Respect and Respond to Moderator Intervention

If a moderator contacts you or messages the entire forum regarding posts that were made, we ask that you respond immediately. That could mean clarifying something you said or refraining from using a particular word. Moderators will inform you if they remove a post that is deemed inappropriate. Moderators will suspend a member’s participation status if they do not respond or continue to act inappropriately on the forum.

Moderator will send you an email regarding the issue. If it is minor and you are able to respond immediately, you may continue to participate in the forum.
If the issue is more severe, depending on the severity of the situation, the moderator will ask you to stop participating for a period of 2-4 weeks in order to discuss the situation.
If after 2-4 weeks the moderator deems in appropriate to allow you to participate again, you will be reinstated in the forum.

  1. Moderator will send you an email regarding the issue. If it is minor and you are able to respond immediately, you may continue to participate in the forum.

  2. If the issue is more severe, depending on the severity of the situation, the moderator will ask you to stop participating for a period of 2-4 weeks in order to discuss the situation.

  3. If after 2-4 weeks the moderator deems in appropriate to allow you to participate again, you will be reinstated in the forum.

  4. If you breeched the Terms of Agreement multiple times, and/or your breech was severe, you may be removed from the Forum all together

If you breeched the Terms of Agreement multiple times, and/or your breech was severe, you may be removed from the community.

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