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It's
never hard for me to explain why I have chosen
the work, or rather the mission that I have. Some
things in life aren't so much of a choice but
rather a requirement. The Bible says, "To
whom much is given, much is required," and
I know that I have been given so much that I would
be remiss not to give back.
My journey started in England in a neighborhood
where choices for youth were limited: the boys
got locked up and the girls got pregnant. You
weren't expected to finish high school, much
less
go to college. For a young woman, success was
staying with your 'baby's daddy' and dressing
your kids in name brand clothes. I always knew
I wanted more but the circumstances seemed to
dictate
otherwise so at 13, I left school to support
my alcoholic mother. Although I started off
working
hard in factories and restaurants, it wasn't
long before I found that there were easier ways
to
make money. My criminal endeavors earned me a
lot of fast cash along with a police record.
I
began to drink heavily, smoke weed, sniff speed
and coke. I was raped and was hospitalized for
suicide attempts three times, crying for help.
I moved in and out of relationships with older
men who seemed momentarily to provide the security
and affection I was longing for. Social workers,
the school board, the police, lawyers and child
psychiatrists were all involved in my case but
I continued to slip through the cracks of a system
that would eventually give up on me.
By 17, I had moved to Germany in search of a
fresh start but quickly found myself penniless
and desperate. I turned my first trick in a strip-club
in Munich, while tears ran down my face, telling
myself that I would simply do this until I could
make enough money to go home. Yet two weeks
quickly
turned into two months. The money, the fast life
and the attention were addictive and I began
to
be unable to envision any other life for myself.
I numbed myself daily with drugs and lies and
told myself that this was who I was. I worked
as a prostitute for two hard years, eventually
getting out after my crack-addicted pimp tried
to murder me. I found a church where they offered
not only spiritual counsel, but also a job, a
home and unconditional love and support and
I
began a slow journey back to health.
It's now been eight years since I started my
life over, five years since I came to the U.S.
and four years since I finally obtained my GED
and went to college on a full scholarship, recently
graduating with a BA in Psychology.
Whilst working in the prison with adult women
for The Little Sister Project in 1997, I developed
a youth component working with the 16-21 year
old girls. Working with the adolescents felt like
finally coming home after a long journey away.
There was such a strong sense of identification
and such a profound love for these girls that
I knew I had found my calling. In these young
women I saw so much untapped potential that was
being hidden under layers of abuse and pain. In
these young women I saw myself. Looking at the
things that could have made a difference for me,
(early intervention, preventive education, consistent
adult support), and the things that did make a
difference, (practical services, education, new
opportunities, mentoring), Girls Educational and
Mentoring Services, GEMS was born.
There remains a deep scar across the palm of
my right hand, seventeen stitches, a vivid reminder
of the last fight with my pimp. It's reminder
that I almost didn't make it, a reminder of how
many emotional scars abuse can leave and a reminder
of why I do what I do. It's what makes me stay
steadfastly committed to a girl that everyone
else has given up on. It's what makes me get up
in a room full of strangers and share my story.
It's what allows me to see beauty, worth and potential
in each and every girl we serve. It's what makes
me so sure that in five years time it will be
the girls themselves running GEMS and doing an
incredible job of it.
When I finish a presentation and open
the floor up for questions, someone invariably
asks if I
regret what I have been through or what I would
change. I never hesitate to say that I wouldn't
change a thing. Obviously there's experiences
I would rather not have had and pain I wish I
hadn't felt but every experience, every tear,
every hardship has equipped me for the work I
do now. There is such a deep satisfaction in knowing
that I am fulfilling my purpose, that my life
is counting for something, that it puts all the
past hurts into perspective. My pain has become
my passion and I find true joy in my work, in
my life and in seeing 'my girls' fulfill their
purpose too.
*Pictured above is Rachel and local children
in the Philippines where she attended the International
Young Peoples Participation Project
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